5 Bad Habits That Annoy Your Friends
We all want to be liked to a certain degree. It's in our nature to want to form connections with others and build bonds of friendship and family. Regardless of who you are, it's important to know what you may be doing to alienate or annoy others.
1. Bad Manners:
This may sound obvious, but it's important to always be aware of how you treat others all of the time. I'm not saying you have to be all prim and proper 24/7, but basics like "please", "thank you", "excuse me", etc. are really important and people really do pick up on that. On the flip side, people also notice when you don't.
2. 1 Upping:
This literally drives me crazy. It's so natural to want to share similar experiences with others when hearing a story. But if every single time you're in a conversation you find yourself saying things like, "Yeah, something even WORSE happened to me..." or something similar, just know that you're a 1 upper and no one likes that EVER. Just try listening! If someone is trying to share an experience with you, they aren't looking to get in a battle over who had it the best or worst. It's tacky.
3. Being 1 sided in conversations:
Similarly to 1 Upping, being one sided in conversations is exhausting. There should be equal talking and listening taking place in any conversation. It is common for all of us to feel awkward if there is silence or pause in the conversation, but that doesn't mean talking at someone until they can fight their way through to cut you off. Be a good listener as much as you are a talker. Otherwise, you shut the other person down. You'll know when it happens because their eyes will glaze over as they are praying for you to stop talking.
4. Changing who you are around others:
This normally happens when you start dating someone new or you are introducing someone new to your circle. New relationships are great, but if you change how you act around different people, your current friends will notice and may assume you are inauthentic. I'm not saying you can't focus on different topics of interest, but changing who you are and how you act and react is a big red flag.
5. Using your phone too much in social settings:
I saved this one for last because this is something I struggle with at times. Being connected to your phone all of the time is something we have all just become accustomed to. BUT, if you are sitting with a group or especially in a 1 on 1 scenerio and you are on your phone, people may assume you're uninterested or bored. Both of which are bad. If you need to use your phone, just politely let whoever you are with know why so they aren't assuming you are just on Pintrest looking for new windown treatment ideas.